Our Journey with Conjoined Twins
Abby & Erin
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
Romans 8:28
Everyone looks at things in different ways. Someone sees the glass half full, the other sees it half empty. Something you look at may seem beautiful to you, but be ugly to me. Perspective is a funny thing. I've been thinking about it a lot lately. Being in this type of situtaiton seems to like to change your perspective on things. My husband tells me all the time that his view on life is completley different since we found out about our girls. These things can make your perspective do a complete 180. One day life is great, and then the next day life is miserable. But he has always said that they have changed his perspective to be a better one. To always see the glass half full. To see the good, and the reasoning behind things. I admire him for that.
Recently we were told some news about the girls that was not the most wonderful news we could receive. Because of the way things have been moving we are most likely going to switch directions. Not saying whats been going on hasn't done what it's supposed to, but it hasn't done everything we were hoping. Because of that we will most likely be here longer than we were anticipating. And I am not going to lie, that pretty much cut right through me. I am not one to cry in the NICU. I always try to be as strong as I can when it comes to this because I know if I crumble, I might not be able to pick myself back up. But this news made me cry. To hear that what I thought was going to be happening in a month or two, now isn't going to happen for more like 4 months just frustrated me. Thats more months of watching my girls fight, more months of being away from my husband, and more months of the "unknown". I was frustrated, upset, defeated, and sad. I felt like nothing would be able to make me see that any differently. Then the next day I saw another mom who has been here at the ronald mcdonald house for the past three months. Her son was in the hospital. When I saw her I asked how she and her son was doing. Little did I know, but he had passed away the morning before. I could see and feel her pain. But what she told me will ring in my ears forever and completley changed my perspective. She said "hug those babies, because you have them now, enjoy every second you have with them". In that second my perspective went from "why me, why us?" to thank you God for bringing us this far, even if it is going to take longer. I realized how grateful I am for my little girls. Yes, being here is hard, yes seeing so many people have beautiful perfect babies hurts, yes hearing people complain about stupid little things annoys me to death, but I am so so so grateful for our girls, and the outlook they have given my husband and I. They have showed us so much and continue to do so every single day. I decided in that moment, when that mom told me through tears to enjoy my babies, that I will. As much as it may hurt, as much as I may be frustrated, as much as I may ask why, I will enjoy them. I will thank God every day that I have them because they are such gifts, and such miracles. Please say a prayer for that family, I cannot imagine the feeling of loosing a child that you have watched fight so hard. She is the kind of mom I want to be. One that stands by her child, and even after she lost him, was able to speak into my life through her pain. If you ever read this please know how grateful I am for your words yesterday!! Dear brothers and sisters,[a] when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy. 3 For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. 4 So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing. James 1:2-4
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Mary-Ann Rados
1/11/2017 11:00:52 pm
In Christ what does one write except you don't know me here on earth but you will know me in heaven. I have three daughters who have been in heaven. They went when I was 19 and the twins when I was 24. I am now 60 and all I can say that in spite of God has been faithful. When I was 30 I met a man who was widowed with a 2, 4 and 7 year old. I married and raised his mine and ours. We don't know why but the Lord does. Your babies are beautiful and can you think for one minute where you would be without your Faith. That is the one thing all my life I wondered where I would be without the Lord. The mom was right enjoy the girls every waking moment and I am thankful you can share with so many your life so we can pray for you. May you feel the arms of Jesus around your family. M.A.
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1/12/2017 05:36:32 am
Hang in there even tho it may be hard God does not put more on us than we can handle....Always remember he has a plan for us all.... Continued prayers for girls and family
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Laura
1/12/2017 06:18:12 am
I want you to know you made at least one person more appreciative today. My prayers are with you. Thank God for woman like that mother. Hugs to all of you at Ron Mac house
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Mike
1/12/2017 08:07:58 am
Heather, we've told you right along that you are the strongest person we know and never doubt for a moment that you're the best mom any child could have. Keep the spirit of God in your heart always and never ever let doubt enter your mind. Things may change during the course of time and you know to accept that change can be good. We're proud of you and Riley and blessed to have you both and our granddaughters in our lives. Love you all.
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“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ's sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.”
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1/12/2017 12:56:27 pm
Heather you and Riley are two of the most wonderful parents. we have ever known. May your Faith keep you strong and may his healing hand bless your two beautiful daughters. I have tremendous Faith in our Blessed Mother. Our children are now older, but we almost lost one of our twins at age 3 mos. My Faith brought me through the long time period of knowing she was going to survive. She now has a family of her own and is one of sweetest woman I know.
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Dawn Kirk
1/12/2017 07:50:30 pm
Oh Heather...you are stronger than you think!! I'm glad you cried...you need to cry....it's a stress relief and a cleansing all in one. It's good for you and it doesn't mean yore weak! Remember you are human, you have feelings and you can't bottle them up/ignore them. You're doing an amazing job, Mom!! Don't doubt that!! There's no handbook here to tell you how to do this-there's no right or wrong here. God bless your friend who lost her son, heartbreaking...how wonderful her loss resulted in such a positive effect on others. I bet she will help many in the days to come..💕💕. That's what you are doing with your writings, you're helping others out there. Keep the faith! Give your little ladies a squeeze for me! Sending prayers of strength, love, and hope for continued progress, even if it will take a bit longer! God Bless! 💕🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻😍😍
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Cindy
1/17/2017 03:40:32 am
I go to church with your grandfather in Mooresville, NC. I am a retired teacher. The babies are so beautiful! They look so much like you! They have your beautiful eyes and fair complexion! I saw the picture of you and then the adorable girls! I go to mass daily and will keep them and your family in my prayers. Cindy
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Gail Foreman Brentwood bay Canada Debbie's friend
1/30/2017 02:21:28 pm
Heather your girls beautiful and will pray for the lady at McDonald's house l pray ever day and at night for Abby erin and your husband Riley at home making the bread for your girls and you a great mom god is looking over you guys love Gail of god it's Debbie saying of me Gail love from Brentwood bay Canada oxox
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Isabella Lucas
11/10/2022 05:10:03 am
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AuthorMy name is Heather Delaney. I married the love of my life Riley on 10/02/15 and we now have two beautiful girls Abby & Erin, who are conjoined twins, that were born 07/24/16. We are trusting that God is going to work all this out for his good! Archives
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