Our Journey with Conjoined Twins
Abby & Erin
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
When you hope, be joyful. When you suffer, be patient. When you pray, be faithful.
Romans 12:12 (NIRV)
Patience is a funny thing. I feel like I catch myself praying "Lord give me patience" but then I realize that in order to have patience, I need to be put into situations that I need to be patient. And let me tell you I have never gone into a season of life where I had to be more patient than I am now.
Sorry I haven't updated in a while. Life is just seeming to pass me by. Days turn into weeks before my very eyes. The girls are overall doing very well. A few weeks back we needed to "re-evaluate" the course the girls were on and come up with a slightly different game plan. And since then things have been good. The process they are going through is working, it is just taking a lot of time. It is a very slow day by day process. People keep asking me "when is their surgery going to be?", "Have they given you any type of timeline?" and I just have to keep telling everyone we don't have a timeline or anything right now. We are just patiently watching the girls do what they do throughout this process. And the girls absolutely HATE it. Some days are better than others. But majority of the days are emotionally exhausting for me. I try so hard to keep it together around them. I don't want them to sense me breaking because they need all the strength they can get. But it is getting tiring. It has been about three weeks of this new process and I'm already wearing thin. But I know we need to get through this to move forward. I just keep counting the days till Riley will be here again, and remind myself that the next step after this is separation. It is so close yet so far. I lay in bed at night thinking about what it is going to be like when they are separate and I feel like we are just never going to get there. I know we will, it is just that feeling that it is never going to happen. It's where this whole patience thing come back into the picture. Being patient while your children are in pain is one of the very hardest things I think a parent can endure.
It is a funny thing being here because even though my emotions are running thin, I gain so much admiration for these little girls. I am so humbled to be their mom. Watching them grow and endure all that they are going through is miraculous. I get to watch a real live miracle happening everyday and it is sometimes more than I can handle and it just makes me weep. I am so incredibly proud of them. They have overcome so much hardship in their lives so far, I just don't know how they do it. God must have a seriously amazing plan for them.
I want to give a quick shout out to the staff at CHOP. We have the greatest team I could have ever imagined. Our surgeons have the most inovative and smart minds that I have ever had the chance of meeting. Our nurses/nurse practitioners are the most kind and caring people you could ever imagine. I watch them day in and day out love on our girls and it brings me to tears thinking about it. They will sing to them, rock them in their wagon, play with them, pat them, comfort them, and do everything in their power to make the girls day everything is should be. All of the girls different therapists, occupational, physical, music, and speech, are all so wonderful. They have the girls best interests at heart and are always so encouraging. They are some of the girls biggest cheer leaders. Watching the girls smile at all these wonderful people makes my heart swell. To see the girls knowing how many people are caring for them and are cheering them on gives me so much hope. If I was to be anywhere for an extended period of time it would be here.
Thank you so much to those of you who have sent us cards and gifts. I wish I could personally thank each and every one of you. There are just so many. It is those little things sometimes that help me get through the day. There are days when I get back to the Ronald McDonald House and am feeling defeated and very worn, and then I will check my mailbox and I will have a letter, or a package waiting for me. I can't wait to tell the girls all about these things when they are older and can understand how many people were praying for them, and encouarging their parents. Without all of the support I don't know if Riley and I would be able to hang in there. This journey is so trying, but also so rewarding. We really pray that each one of you are blessed 10xs over what you have blessed us with.
Riley, myself, and the girls, want to wish each and every one of you a Blessed and Wonderful Christmas and a very happy New Year.
My name is Heather Delaney. I married the love of my life Riley on 10/02/15 and we now have two beautiful girls Abby & Erin, who are conjoined twins, that were born 07/24/16. We are trusting that God is going to work all this out for his good!