Our Journey with Conjoined Twins
Abby & Erin
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Romans 8:28
Romans 8:28
I'm trying to be better about blogging more often. I love being able to type out thoughts and feelings and also update everyone on the girls and all their amazing progress. Here in NC things are opening back up and life is starting to get back to normal. But unfortunately for us things are still pretty much like they were in quarantine. The only difference is that we go to therapy 2 days a week and tele-therapy two days instead of it all being tele-therapy. I am so glad to be back in the clinic with the girls. You don't realize how much work goes into providing therapies for your children every day. They seem to be pretty happy that they are back with their therapists as well. We are still super super careful at therapy and the girls don't come into contact with anyone other than their therapists and we bring a bag of our own toys to play with so we don't chance sharing germs from toys. We love everyone at the girls' therapy. The therapists and staff are all so wonderful and accommodating and we are so grateful for them and for moving things around so that the girls could get into the clinic two days a week and still be very safe. Other than therapy the girls still don't really leave the house, and it is tough on me and on them. Yes, we take walks, and see my mom, and see Riley's mom. But other than that we don't do anything. I will literally put them in the car and just take a ride to get them out of the house. We don't go anywhere, we just drive around. It tough because in order to go grocery shopping or do anything the requires me to get out of the car, I have to get a babysitter for the girls. And our families are great, but there are times where I realize I don't have one ingredient for dinner, and I can't just run out to the store like I could before. Everything requires a plan now. And because of that I am with the girls pretty much 24/7. I usually try to run out for things once they are in bed, but now things are all closing early (everything around here seems to close by like 8:30) and by the time I get the girls down for bed I have to RUN through the store to get the things I need. And yes we do use Walmart grocery pick up, and all the curbside services we can. But getting out and doing the shopping for the house used to be one of my "me" times. It's just a bummer that things have changed so much and don't look like they are going back to normal any time soon. It's hard making decisions for the girls throughout all of this as well. We want them to be able to go into the world and be able to go to the park, and go to the library, but right now we just want to keep them safe and healthy. While all this is going on we are also in the process of moving again. Hopefully this will be the last move for a while. We are sick of having to move every year or so and want to be able to "settle in" in our next place. We are planning on renting again and then in about a year or two think about buying a house. But I want to be able to stay in our next place until we are able to buy a house. So with Riley's broken arm the packing pretty much falls on me. So while I pack, Erin climbs in and out of the boxes and pulls things out that I put in, while Abby crawls around whining because she wants the packing tape that I won't let her have. It's a bit of a circus but I am getting things done. I just keep trying to get a few things done everyday, that way two weeks from now we aren't panicking that we have to be out. Please keep us in prayer as we look for a new place. We have to be out of our current rental by Aug. 1st and we are still trying to find a place to move into. Things in our area are not the cheapest and they go very quickly. We know that God has a place already picked out for us and we are just trusting him to lead us to that. Riley is doing very well. Things with him have settled down finally after a very rough past almost year or so. He is happy and hopeful again and we are so grateful. It's a really tough thing to watch someone you love struggle with mental illness and have there be nothing you can do to help. It was a really tough dark place for us. But he has pulled himself up, gotten the help we both needed, and are moving forward. His arm is healing well. The surgery went well and he ended up getting 2 plates and 12 screws put in. Recovery from surgery wasn't the easiest but within a week he was feeling much better. He had an appoint last week and they put a hard cast on him that he will have for at least another month. They will check it at his next appointment if he is going to need to keep it on longer or not, and then what type of therapy he might need to get his arm back to its normal activities. He also started a new job yesterday! He was hired at T-mobile and is so excited to have a job that could turn into a career. He is in training for the next 3 weeks which is a lot of zoom meetings and classes, but he is doing them and doing well so far. We are so hopeful for this new opportunity! We are also so grateful for it because finances have been a struggle. It will be nice to have an income again other than just my tumbler business. But we are all so proud of him and how he works on himself every single day. He truly is an amazing dad and husband and we are lucky to have him!!! The girls are doing phenomenal!! Erin has taken to walking so fast! She now walks over 10 feet most times that she walks. She is all over the house and loves her new found independence. Abby is doing things that Erin was doing right before quarantine started so her therapists are excited at the prospect of her walking hopefully within the next 8 months of so (maybe longer, but looking at her progress I wouldn't put it past her). We are now dealing with some behavioral issues with Erin that have been a struggle. She unfortunately has been getting very frustrated. We know this has to do with the fact that she can't communicate like she should. And unfortunately she takes this out a lot on Abby. She has been biting and pulling hair and pulling Abby over. We are working on ways of punishing that will be effective since it is hard to know what she understands. And trying to figure out how to best correct these behaviors. We are working closely with her therapists, a developmental psychologist, and possibly and behavioral therapist. We need to try and figure out how to help her communicate so that she doesn't have these sudden anger outbursts that seem to target whoever is closest to her at the moment. Abby takes it all like a champ and although she cries she still plays with her sister. There are times you can tell she gets nervous, but she still loves her sister and wants to be around her. Abby is definitely the more sensitive of the two of them. When Erin gets in trouble most times Abby cries. So we are trying to soften Erin and toughen Abby lol. They really do seem to balance each other. We can't believe that their birthday is already this month. We are trying to figure out what we are going to do for them since we can't really have a party right now. We are thinking of maybe having a party some time after their birthday once things in the world calm down a little bit more. But one thing we are thinking of doing is re-doing their bedroom at our new place. It is time to graduate from cribs and baby themes, to big girl beds and play things. We are excited at the prospect of this for the girls but at the same time it makes me sad. We call them the babies so often and we are trying to stop since they are almost 4. It feels like just yesterday we were in the hospital holding two tiny little sweet babies who are now full blown toddlers who are turning into kids! It's so exciting to watch every milestone they hit. It is amazing how fast time has gone. Being in the hospital and dealing with separation almost feels like a dream. I remember longing for the day where they were separate people. And now them being attached feels like it was all a dream. We are so grateful for these two little girls and are so excited to celebrate another year of their miracle lives. We have been so blessed with them and can't wait to see all the new things they are going to keep doing and all the big things they are going to keep achieving! Prayer requests: -that we find a new place soon that is everything we need it to be -that our finances work out so that we can do this move -that the girls have a fantastic birthday -that the girls stay healthy amidst all the health scares we are dealing with in the world right now -that we will be able to find a new way of life while being able to provide the girls with a life outside of the house. -that Riley's new job will be everything he hopes and can be something that he will be able to do long term We love you all so much and are so grateful for your prayers and encouragement!
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Vicky
8/30/2020 01:29:01 am
Dear Heather, write when you feel like it, when you have time, when you want to celebrate or are having a bad day. I THINK YOU'RE AMAZING! Your blog kept me up all night, following your journey from when you saw the ultrasound and knew what to expect right up to this latest post. Please don't compare your beautiful twins to anyone else. They are indeed perfect.
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10/26/2020 04:25:08 pm
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Vicky
8/30/2020 01:43:07 am
Dear Riley, I didn't see where you broke your arm but I trust it's healed well and you're now back on deck. Your family needs you and loves you so much. I think it's great that you read story books to Erin and Abby and show them the pictures; that's precisely what my own mum did that gave me a lifelong love of reading.
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10/26/2020 04:25:28 pm
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AuthorMy name is Heather Delaney. I married the love of my life Riley on 10/02/15 and we now have two beautiful girls Abby & Erin, who are conjoined twins, that were born 07/24/16. We are trusting that God is going to work all this out for his good! Archives
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